Safe sex? Sex was never intended to be dangerous! If sex is dangerous, then there must be something wrong with the human relationship.

Sexuality was never designed to give a few cheap thrills, at the cost of trashing your hopeful future with someone who would love to share more than a bed with you. Consider these three misconceptions about safe sex.

Misconception #1:

Mutual Consent is Enough

Is it love or is it lust? No matter what what you call it, sex goes way beyond two consenting adults.

One answer to that question may go like this, “I’m not really sure. All I know is that our sexual experience together is awesome and I sure hope that this relationship will last a lot longer that the other ones.”

Some believe that morality is relative to their own situational truth. Yet why do those who are sexually active outside of marriage feel guilty or unsatisfied? If that person that you were with was so good, then why are you on the prowl for someone else?

God gave sex as a gift to allow a man and a woman to communicate the deepest love, trust and companionship in the secured bonds of marital faithfulness.

Misconception #2:

Using Protection Keeps You Safe

Our sexuality is very strong, but it is also a very fragile part of our being.

God did not create sex so that you can become infected and die. God did not create sex so you can become pregnant and have an abortion. God did not create sex so that you can commit adultery and destroy your family.

And it was never designed to be passed around to any interested party. That’s what hors d’oeuvres are for.

Sex was created to bring pleasure and blessing upon a marital commitment between a man and a woman for a life time. His love will always lead you to know and make the right sexual choices.

Misconception #3:

You’re Not Hurting Anyone

The trail of broken hearts grows longer every day.

The reality is, while sex might feel good in the moment, unless it is done in a marriage between a man and a woman, you’re hurting yourself more than you know.

Your God-given conscience serves as an alarm system to warn you of a dangerous situation. God wants to keep you from the cruel emotional pain of rejection, embarrassment, anger, jealousy, and the feelings of being used and abused and left all alone.

Since God has the best recipe for a satisfying sexual relationship, why would anyone deprive themselves of that enjoyment?

Correcting the Misconceptions

It is never too late for a new start with a pure heart.

Ask Jesus be the main love of your life. Jesus would love to take your broken heart and heal it. He will make you whole, then holy. He did not come to condemn you. He came to love you, forgive you, and share His truth with you. He promises to minister to every need and desire.

Surrender your sexual desires and temptations to Him in prayer.

Jesus can only save sinners–thank God we all qualify! Jesus will not only save you, He will also make you into that right person for your future spouse. His gift is worth the wait.

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Tommy Blumberg

Tommy Blumberg

Tommy Blumberg was ordained as a Calvary Chapel pastor in 1985, where he served as an assistant to Pastor Wayne Taylor of Calvary Fellowship, in Seattle. In 1992, Pastor Tom, his wife Pam, and their three daughters moved to Bellingham and began a Bible study, which led to the founding of Calvary Chapel Northwest. Tom blogs regularly at

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